Hearing the terrific news on the bus this morning, the part of me that worked for Freedom to Marry Massachusetts ten summers ago, when we were preparing for the decision in Goodridge v. Department of Public Health got full-body chills, thinking of how far we’ve come in a decade. And the pop culture nerd in me thought about all the images that have been part of our larger evolution since DOMA was signed into law in 1996.
There’s In and Out, reminding us in 1997 that, “Sometimes the worst thing you think can happen turns out to be the best thing,” a sentiment that could also apply to the Supreme Court’s decision to take up marriage equality in the first place.
There’s Friends, with a reminder that no matter where the state stood, LGBTQ couples have been seeking out and receiving the support of their family and friends for years, and that there long been clergy willing to say “You know, nothing makes God happier than when two people, any two people, come together in love.”:
Ellen Degeneres didn’t just come out on her sitcom: she and Portia di Rossi aired a video documenting their wedding on The Ellen DeGeneres Show in 2008:
By the time Stanford and Anthony tied the knot in Sex And The City 2, we were far along enough in our debate about marriage equality that we could talk about the tackiness of a wedding between a gay couple as much as we could talk about the ceremony as a symbol of equality:
Grey’s Anatomy made weddings between gay and straight couples explicitly equal in its narrative, and even suggested that gay couples could be more traditional than straight couples:
And by the time that Ryan Lewis and Macklemore released “Same Love,” a music video celebration of a gay couple, both the sentiment and the visuals were striking for how ordinary, and almost how behind-the-times they were: