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Real Housewives of Atlanta Gets Soapy with Relationship Issues

Thanks and congratulations to Alyssa, who is, I hope, taking a break from unpacking and having a drink in her brand new pad.

Soap operas are on the decline (I mourn for all my older aunts who are losing their “stories”), but reality TV is just as reliable for cartoonish drama and stormy romantic relationships. And Real Housewives of Atlanta has some of the most ridiculous relationship situations. I’m not even talking about Gregg and Nene yet. I’m saving that mess for last.

After watching last night, I don’t know which group is more delusional: the women or the men. With very few exceptions, everyone on this show seems to have some therapy-grade issues with the opposite sex: Kim’s loosening ties to Big Papa (and her recently revealed pregnancy); Phaedra and the faint distaste she treats her husband Apollo with; Cynthia and her strangely low-key attitude toward her upcoming wedding.

Cynthia’s fiancé Peter is adorable–and you can tell he genuinely loves her. But it seems like Cynthia’s made a decision to stop putting off singlehood instead of starting a new life with someone. And I know every bride is different–some women obsess about the wedding so much they momentarily stop focusing on the marriage, and maybe that’s the deal with Cynthia. But I’m going to be pissed if she breaks Peter’s heart. (And what is up with her friend? Is he getting married?)

Watching Kim walk into a jewelry store to get her daughter an abstinence ring was both a pleasant and sad surprise. I know plenty of women who had children young and still managed to set a decent example for their daughters…but I don’t know that Kim is one of them. And Phaedra’s whole outlook on motherhood is…disconcerting. Poor Apollo and Ayden (Adonis, though?) are in my prayers. “We’ll see how this turns out”? Phaedra didn’t buy movie tickets, she had a child. That poor little boy. And Sheree and Tai-Bo or whatever the hell his name is…he might not be a PhD, but he needs to seek help. “Sometimes women just need to shut up?” Child, bye.

Then…there’s Nene and Gregg. Real talk: I love my husband fiercely. But if I heard him describing me as a bad investment—on the radio—he and I would have a misunderstanding. That reading she gave him at the end of the episode was the least of what he deserved—his shockingly cold response warranted more than a raised voice. And was I the only person who was a little shocked that Nene found out about the radio interview online? Why didn’t one of her friends tell her? We watched them all listen to the recording. Nobody thought it would be a good idea to give her a heads-up?

Most of us will have to deal with breakups, anxiety about new babies, raising teens, and wedding stress. Very few of us will make those events as ridiculously dramatic as the women of RHOA. But that’s why I watch—if I can’t have my stories, I’ll take this.

Liking It Doesn’t Make It Yours

Good evening! I’m happy to be back; thanks to Alyssa, as always, for inviting me, and to you all for reading.

It seems that writing about fandom is becoming something of a theme for me here, and apparently this time will be no exception, as entertainment journalist Jace Lacob has a piece in The Daily Beast about showrunners and Twitter. He talks to Hart Hanson of Bones, Shonda Rhimes of Grey’s Anatomy, and Dan Harmon of Community about the dangers of the direct interaction with fans that Twitter invites:

“While I’m delighted that fans of the show think of it as ‘their’ show, that delight doesn’t extend to any desire to listen to them tell me how I’m ruining ‘their’ show,” said Hanson. “The rude people—who are a minority but very vocal—are convinced that what they think about the show is what everybody thinks about the show and as a result they are furious when I don’t do what they want. It’s a kind of strange megalomania that becomes extremely wearing.”

I follow Hanson and Rhimes on Twitter, and I’ve seen these tweets to them, and they’re pretty awful. Of course, it’s a no-brainer that people shouldn’t go around being cruel or threatening people on Twitter. But I also reject the premise behind these Twitter issues: the idea that fans have some sort of creative ownership over shows (or movies or book series), and that the creators “owe” the fans something. I’m not sure whether the interaction with showrunners, stars, etc. facilitated by social networking has created this sense of fan entitlement, or whether fans always thought these things and are only now able to express them because of Twitter.

And I’ll go so far as to say that it’s good that fans have no creative control. I don’t want to watch a crowd-sourced TV show. If I did want that, I’d watch The Bachelor or American Idol, where fans do theoretically control the “plot” with their votes. And, of course, viewer whims controlling an actual fictional plot would produce even more chaos and questionable quality than we already see on reality competition shows.

So no, Hart Hanson doesn’t care what you think of the character development on Bones this season. And I don’t want him to. I signed up to watch Hanson’s show, not yours. If you really hate it, don’t threaten the man’s dog – just stop watching. Whether and what you watch is the part of this process you get to control, and that’s where the power lies, anyway: the network executives might glance at Twitter occasionally, but what they really care about is ratings.

Be Our Guest

Because I am running around and collapsing into a heap of cardboard boxes today, the divine BabylonSista and Katie Welsh are going to help me out for the rest of the week. They’re both beta of the site, so please be as excellent to them as you have been before–I know I’m desperate for BabylonSista’s coming take on the Real Housewives of Atlanta. I’ll pop in intermittently. But thanks to them for holding down the fort and to y’all for bearing with me.

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