Last week, National Organization for Marriage chairman John Eastman referred to adoption as the “second-best” solution for children, including the adopted children of Supreme Court Justices John Roberts and Clarence Thomas. Eastman has since claimed the AP story misquoted him, but NOM has a long history of claiming biological relationships are superior to adoptive ones, regardless of the sex of the parents.
The comments caught the attention of Jay and Bryan Leffew, a same-sex couple from California that make YouTube videos about their family. They responded in a touching post outlining some of the various forms of stigma they have experienced as adoptive parents, even from other same-sex parents who used surrogacy instead. Their son Daniel, who is now 12-years-old and has lived with them for seven years, wanted to offer a response of his own, so he penned a letter to Chief Justice Roberts about his experience being adopted by his two dads, which he also read aloud for all of YouTube to see:
MARTINEZ-LEFFEW: When I was in foster care, I was told that I was considered unadoptable because of my Goldenhar Syndrome. That is a genetic disorder that affects the whole left side of my body. I lost my little brother Emilio because some people wanted to adopt him, but they weren’t willing to adopt me because of my medical conditions. Lucky for me, that’s when my two dads came along.
I recently found out that you yourself adopted two kids, a boy and a girl, kind of like me and my sister. Family means a lot of different things to different people, but some people believe you have to have the same blood to be a family. You and I both know family goes deeper than blood. I was lucky to be adopted by two guys I can both call dad. [...]
I know you have a tough decision to make with the gay marriage issue, but my family is just as valuable and worthwhile as any other. It’s especially tough for you because I know you don’t necessarily believe in gay marriage religiously; lucky for us, though, you also don’t believe in taking away a right, even from people like us.